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TED英语演讲课

给心灵放个假吧

Regrets, we’ve had a few. In fact, according to a survey of 2,000 people in the UK, we fritter away 110 hours a year lamenting what might have been.

每个人的生活多少都有些遗憾。事实表明,一项针对2000名英国人的调查结果显示,我们每年浪费110个小时哀叹可能发生的事情。

Eight in 10 people believe their lives would be better if they had taken more risks, while a quarter of those asked by the consumer research company Mortar, in partnership with KP Nuts, still long for past loves.

80%的人认为,如果他们愿意多冒点险,生活会更好;而在消费者研究公司Mortar与KP Nuts合作调查的人群中,有四分之一的人仍然对过去的爱念念不悔。

The psychologist Linda Blair offers advice on how to tackle the most common regrets of the living.

心理学家琳达·布莱尔针对人生中最让人后悔的事提出了几条建议。

1

年轻时没有多存钱

“The human brain looks back and forward. It’s one of the things that makes us different from other creatures.

“人类的大脑会回顾过去并展望未来。这是我们与其他生物不同的地方之一。

Some people feel trapped by this ability, while others gain wisdom from it. This, like every one of these regrets, you could deal with right now.

有些人觉得被这种能力所困,而另一些人则从中获得智慧。像这样的遗憾我们现在依然可以弥补。

You can’t go back to when you were younger, but you can start saving. You may need to seek professional advice but the way I work with regret is to say: ‘This is a lesson. Act on it instead of dwelling upon it.’”

你不能回到你年轻的时候,但你随时都可以开始存钱。你可能需要寻求专业建议,但我应对这种遗憾的方法是:“把它看作一个教训。行动起来,而不是停留在过去。’”

2

没有和老朋友保持联系

“Again, use your regret and say: ‘Wow, I really learned something from that. Old friends matter more than almost anything for me.

“同样地,从遗憾中吸取教训。你可能会觉得:‘哇,我真的从中学到了一些东西。对我来说,老朋友比什么都重要。

So who am I going to contact today?

那么我今天要联系谁呢?

’I would write a card or send a little photo from when you were together and say: ‘You know what? I just realised we have not been in touch, and I miss that. Could we meet up?’ Or: ‘Could we talk?’”

’我会要一张卡片或发一张和朋友在一起时的照片,然后说:‘你知道吗?我刚意识到我们没有联系,很想念你。我们能见面吗?’或者‘我们能聊聊天吗?’”

3

没有投入到浪漫中去

“We’re very bad judges of how we felt in the past, and how we’ll feel in the future. The only way to be happy is to judge how you are feeling right now.

“我们对过去及未来感觉的判断都特别糟糕。让自己快乐的唯一方法是判断你现在的感觉。

So stop allowing your past to control the present. You could join a dating app, but first talk to friends who have successfully built a new relationship later on in their lives and ask how they did it.”

所以,不要让你的过去控制你的现在。你可以下载约会app,但首先要和那些后来成功建立了一段新关系的朋友谈谈,问问他们是怎么做到的。”

4

当生活中的责任比较少时没有去旅行

“We’re poor judges, too, when it comes to remembering how much we did or did not like travelling. Regret is based on inaccurate information, and is often an excuse to not take a chance.

“我们对自己旅行喜好程度的判断能力也很差。遗憾是建立在不准确的信息基础上的,而这恰巧也往往是不愿冒险的借口。

Break things down into doable parts. You may indeed have more responsibilities now, so there are two questions: how can I travel with my responsibilities? And: which responsibilities do I have that aren’t necessary?”

我们可以做的是把一件事情分成可做的几部分。你现在可能确实有了更多的责任,所以要问问自己:我如何带着我的责任旅行?还有:哪些职责是不必要的?”

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